There’s a certain subset of men out there who don’t let others tell them what to do and definitely don’t let their emotions get the best of them. They may not always be considered the good guys, but they are always respected for their level-headedness and ability to remain calm under pressure, even when others are losing their cool. These men are sigma males, and if you want to know how to become one, this list of 10 personality traits that makes these powerful men unstoppable will tell you everything you need to know!
1) They do not give in to peer pressure
Sigmas know that while groupthink may make people feel good in moment, it often proves disastrous in hindsight. When everyone is jumping off a bridge, sigma males are often still thinking of reasons why they shouldn’t. While these reasons can be trivial (and even incorrect), they allow sigma males to overcome common barriers and pursue new opportunities that others wouldn’t think to consider. Whether or not you agree with them, you have to admit that it takes courage to stand alone in your beliefs – especially when everyone else around you thinks differently.
You don’t take anything at face value: In today’s society, there is no shortage of experts telling us what we should do – and how we should do it.
2) They aren’t afraid to express their emotions
Sigmas have strong emotions, especially anger. They don’t try to hide them or tamp them down; they embrace those feelings and act on them, to their own benefit. They are confident in their place in life and love seeing everyone else’s success. Sure, not everyone will like them for being honest about who they are and what they want—but that doesn’t matter to a sigma male. He’s only looking out for himself anyway. If you think of yourself as an alpha male or a nice guy, these traits might seem antithetical to your personality. But when you look at how successful people live their lives, it’s clear that there is more than one way to be an effective leader. Don’t feel like you need to change yourself if you aren’t naturally alpha? Just fake it until you make it!
3) They are independent thinkers
Sigmas don’t follow crowds. They are independent thinkers and always consider their own interests first. If they don’t think something is a good idea, they won’t do it. This means that sigmas don’t get caught up in trends or fads like sheep following each other over a cliff. In fact, sigma males often go against popular opinion just to prove how independent they are. You can imagine what happens when everyone else thinks one thing but you know you’re right. You win every time!
This trait makes them unpredictable and exciting. Women love a man who stands on his own two feet, who makes his own decisions and follows his own path regardless of what others think. You may not be very predictable at times (which isn’t necessarily bad), but when you decide to settle down with someone, she will never have any doubts about where she stands with you.
4) They are assertive and outgoing
A sigma male is socially dominant and comfortable with confrontation. They aren’t afraid to strike up a conversation with a beautiful woman or ask for a promotion from their boss. And they don’t mind pushing people around if it’s necessary to get what they want. They are confident and self-assured: Sigmas know who they are, where they’re going, and what they want out of life. This self-confidence allows them to live without regret because they are aware of their strengths as well as their weaknesses. They also have realistic expectations about life; that means no delusions about making millions overnight or becoming famous celebrities.
5) They set long-term goals
Unlike betas and gammas, sigma males set long-term goals. These men know what they want and aren’t interested in wasting time being mediocre. Instead of waiting for opportunities to fall into their laps, these guys take advantage of every opportunity that comes their way. They understand that it’s important to go after everything they want instead of sitting back and waiting for things to happen. They don’t care about social norms: A lot of people are concerned with fitting in with others and meeting expectations. However, sigma males don’t care about doing something just because everyone else is doing it or because society expects them to do it. For example, a lot of young men worry about buying a house or getting married because society tells them those are milestones everyone should hit by a certain age.
6) They make time for fitness
Despite their already-packed schedules, sigma males make time for fitness. They value physical fitness over everything else, and because of that, they live longer, happier lives. These men understand that there is no secret quick fix in life—not in business and not in their bodies. So they make time to exercise regularly—at least three times a week—and avoid succumbing to sedentary lifestyles. If you want to be like them, start by committing to daily workouts and scheduling your gym sessions as often as you schedule meetings with clients or colleagues. If you’re serious about getting fit, it will happen—even if it means waking up an hour earlier each day so you can hit the gym before work.
7) They use logic over emotion
Sigmas are able to balance both sides of their brain. They understand that it is human nature to react emotionally, and rather than turning into an unruly animal, they know how to channel their emotions towards productive results. Sigmas have a healthy sense of self-esteem and confidence; rather than hiding from conflict or avoiding negative emotions (two prime traits of a typical beta male), they’re open about everything in their lives. This allows them to be transparent with others, creating trust and respect among their peers.
8) They don’t judge others, they listen
Sigmas are so honest that they don’t judge or criticize others for their actions. Because of their direct approach, people see sigmas as straight-shooting and nonjudgmental individuals. Sigmas don’t look at their lack of judgment as a sign of weakness, but instead use it to make them more effective leaders. In order to lead others well, you must have an open mind toward those that you’re leading. If you judge your team members, then how can you expect them to be successful? If you want to be a great leader, then focus on being a great listener. Listening is key in any leadership role because if you listen to your team members and what they have to say, then they will feel heard and understood. This in turn helps build trust between yourself and your team members. When there is trust between team members, productivity skyrockets!
9) Their communication style is direct and blunt
they don’t mince words, and they’re always straight to point. If you ask a sigma male something, he’ll give you a direct answer. (Translation: no BS.) Because of their bluntness, sigma males have been called assholes in popular media. If a sigma male feels like someone is wasting his time or trying to con him, he’ll let them know in no uncertain terms. It can be disconcerting for people who are used to being coddled by others, but it’s refreshing for those who are tired of dealing with pretentious people. They live on their own terms: there are many people out there who try to conform themselves into what society expects from them. Not so with sigma males; if society wants something different from what they want, then too bad—they won’t do it just because everyone else does it.
10) When they make mistakes, they use it as an opportunity to learn
Sigmas aren’t afraid to make mistakes—they recognize it as an important part of growth. When they do mess up, instead of beating themselves up about it, they use it as a learning experience. This is one reason why sigmas are so unstoppable; they don’t let their ego get in their way and instead use failure as fuel for success. It also means that when they succeed, it feels all that much sweeter. And when you combine tenacity with resilience, what you have is someone who will fight through hell or high water to reach his goals. You can try to stand in his way, but chances are he won’t stop until he gets what he wants—and even then he’ll find another way around if there isn’t one available right away.