You know you like this boy, and it’s driving you insane that he doesn’t know that you like him. But you don’t want to ruin your friendship by being completely upfront with him, so what do you do? Your best bet is to try these five steps to telling your crush that you like him without making the situation weird and awkward between the two of you.
Practice makes perfect
One way you can tell your crush that you like them without being completely awkward is by practicing what you’re going to say beforehand. Think of it as a dress rehearsal: Instead of putting together a scene for English class, think about how you’re going to tell him that his shoes are super cool. Write out what you want to say, and practice saying it aloud until it comes off naturally. This will help you feel more confident when it actually comes time to talk with him. And if he says something about liking you back? That’s even better!
Keep your crush in mind
It’s easy to get so caught up in day-to-day life that you forget about what it is you actually like about your crush. It’s also easy to let yourself feel nervous or anxious—especially when talking about your feelings for someone else can make you feel vulnerable. But instead of worrying about how you’ll tell him, focus on remembering why he makes you happy and why you want to share those feelings with him. Remind yourself of all those reasons before telling him how you feel.
Send a casual text
If you’re too nervous to say it in person, send a text. It’s casual and straightforward—and relatively low-risk, because you can choose your moment before hitting send. Just make sure he’s not too far away that it will take hours for him to respond! And if he doesn’t respond? Give him a little time, then try again. If he still doesn’t bite… let him go. He might be too shy or busy to realize what you have to offer. Move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea (or other people at school).
Don’t send multiple texts or wait too long
Once you’ve got your nerve up, it’s important not to go overboard. Don’t send a bunch of texts, as that could just annoy him or make him wonder what you want. If you’re waiting too long (for example, if he didn’t text you right away), then do something else and forget about it—don’t stalk his profile on Facebook or stare at your phone screen all night long. The longer you wait, the more awkward things will be when you finally do reach out. The same goes for sending multiple texts; don’t bombard him with messages or ask multiple questions in one text. Keep it simple!
Ask a question
Chances are, if you’re trying to figure out how to tell someone you like them, it’s because you don’t know how they feel. So ask a question—something like What was your favorite part of today? Then sit back and listen. The answer should reveal their feelings pretty clearly. If they say something like Getting to spend time with you, consider that your answer. Don’t worry about being too direct; sometimes people need a little push in order to realize what they already know. And remember: It doesn’t matter whether or not you like them back; all that matters is whether or not they deserve to know how you feel.
Find out their plans
If you have a crush on someone and it seems like they might feel similarly, you might wonder how to tell them. Although there’s no hard-and-fast rule about when or how you should tell your crush that you like them, there are a few signs that they may be interested in you too, which will help make it easier for you to take the plunge. First of all, find out what their plans are – do they seem free and open? Or do they seem pretty busy? Is there an obvious reason why they wouldn’t want to hang out with you (like if they have a boyfriend/girlfriend)? This can give you an idea of whether or not it would be awkward for them if you told them how you felt. And remember: even if your crush doesn’t return your feelings, just being honest with yourself and others is always a good thing!
Compliment them (If appropriate)
Most of us are told at a young age that saying, You’re so pretty, or, That color looks good on you, is a good way to tell someone you like them. While it may work in some cases, many people find it scary and uncomfortable. So instead of telling your crush they look nice today, why not ask them how their day was? It might be awkward at first, but it will give you an opportunity to start a conversation and get to know each other better. Plus, giving compliments can make you feel awkward too! Asking about someone else’s day shows that you care about them as a person—not just as an object of affection—and makes your crush more likely to open up and share things with you.
Try again if they don’t respond initially
There’s no rule that says you have to ask your crush out on a date right away—wait for them to show interest first. If you’re really into someone, give them some time to get used to being around you and getting comfortable with you; they might be waiting for your cues. And don’t wait too long or else they may lose interest. Try again in a few days (but not too many) if they don’t respond initially.